Her Happy Ending

In the beginning, there was a girl.

She liked to read and listen to music. She was pretty, but not in the “I can bat my eyelashes like a doll” kind of way, she was truly pretty, the kind of pretty that matters…from the inside out.

She was the kind of girl who could talk about everything from football to politics…she had her opinions, but was gracious enough to bow to superior argument.

She went out one Friday night. Movie night with the girls and it was supposed to be fun! Heck, it was fun especially because they went out dancing afterwards, the girls were always fun.

While she was dancing, she felt someone watching her… She was used to this kind of attention, so she thought nothing of it. She looked at him, gave him a smile – bold but not flirty. She kept dancing.

Eventually, she went home and went straight to bed – it had been an eventful week and she was knackered!

Two weeks after, she went to her favorite restaurant/reading spot to try to get herself to finish a book. She did that sometimes, not to draw attention to herself, in fact, she had a hidden corner of the restaurant to herself…it was clear, she wanted no disturbance.

But again, she felt eyes on her, she looked up. It was the same guy from the dance floor two weeks ago. She remembered because his smile was nice and his face was cute. He also had a book and was alone. She smiled, he smiled too.

Years passed, plenty of unrequited love and plenty of unreciprocated gifts from plenty of men. She wasn’t mean, she really wasn’t, she just hadn’t felt any connection. Try as she might to explain to those who asked, she couldn’t explain it beyond “I just don’t feel the same way”.

She started giving excuses when her girls called her up for hangouts, all she really wanted to do was be alone with a book and her music. She was no longer excited by a night of drinks and dancing…it had lost its appeal.

She got older and started to do what people do as they grow older – think back and tick boxes of regret. Could it be that the men she didn’t feel a connection to needed more time for the friendship to develop to the love level? Maybe her standards were a tad too high, would it hurt to lower them just a little?

Could it be that there really is no such thing as “the one” and should she grab the next man who says hi and settle down, after all it’s about stability and a good home for the kids, yes?

Oh, don’t get her wrong, she wasn’t ungrateful, she had family and friends that loved and cared for her…a very good “support system”, but sometimes her support systems were busy being support systems to others – their own husbands or their own children. She needed her own, a support system she could brand and lay claim to.

One day, a substantial amount of time after she first felt the eyes on her on the dance floor, she bumped into Mr. Nice-Smile-Cute-Face again. This time at a flower shop,  both came for flowers, but for different purposes – he for his mum’s birthday and she for her friend’s wedding bouquet.

This time, for the first time, they spoke. Their first words. “I remember you”, he said. “I remember you too” said she.

In the end, there was a girl…but she was no longer alone.

– youRSrandomlY

The Future is Here!

You know, when you first start earning money – not pocket money from parents, but from a real job – money you actually worked for…you go a little bit “crazy” for a little bit.

Maybe not everyone had this as an experience, but it certainly was mine – splurge on stuff, shop every few months, go on vacations, sometimes twice a year. Why? 3 reasons – I’m an adult, it’s my money and I can 🙂

While none of life’s experiences should be regretted #livealittle, it is important that you don’t stay in this ‘phase’ for too long. If you’ve started to work already, it must mean that the future you spent a long time dreaming about when you were younger is already here – you’ll get married, have kids, live in a nice house, drive a nice car, take family vacations, send your parents money monthly and maybe send them on vacations once in a while, wear nice clothes and shoes, buy tickets to exclusive events e.t.c

It’s your money, but you have a future and in that future, you need this money.

Think on this for a bit and make the right choices.


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Imperfect Me

There are days I’m at the top of my game…slaying!

Other days, I’m at the bottom…failing!

It’s the same me,  the same smile, so you can’t tell.

I wear me well.



One Sunny Day

So, the other day, I had a stupid moment. The kind that is funny when it isn’t about you :)…

I had swapped cars with my best friend and on this very very hot, absolutely ridiculously sunny day, I was in a mad rush.

I got into the car, put the key into the ignition and started it, but the gear refused to engage into drive, I tried and tried and tried but it just didn’t budge. I started to sweat, I was running extremely late and I just couldn’t have this happen to me right then.

I called bestie. “I can’t engage the gear…something must be wrong, I’m running super late, so I’m going to leave the car and uber to my meeting”

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Cheers to a Brighter Future

There are many topics being discussed as 2015 comes to an end and 2016 rears its head, but the common factor is definitely resolutions i.e., what did I do in 2015 that I no longer want to do in 2016? What do I want to achieve in 2016? Etc., whether as an individual or as an organization.

As we all make our resolutions, I just wanted to pop in here and leave a few tips for the New Year ahead. Continue reading →


When I was growing up, and actually, even till now, the general impression is that women take forever to get ready and I always picture a man pacing  in the living room while his wife is in front of the dressing table mirror shuffling between calling out “I’m almost ready, love” and applying her mascara and lipstick.

Even in ant world 🙂

These days however, I hear and have seen that this is no longer as we knew it to be.

Raise your hands, ladies, if your man is guilty of making you late for events because he’s “getting ready”.

Now, dear men, why does it take you forever to get ready?

Are you the one that has to carefully apply make-up like a master painter at work?

So many tools!
So many colors!!

Are you the one who has to go through a pile of clothes to find the outfit just right for this particular event, not the same as the one you wore for the last event (even though it’s a different crowd)?


Are you the one who has to hold her breath and fit into a waist trainer while still managing to look stunning?

Are you the one who has to get the kids ready for the event? and by that I mean, give them a bath, dress them, feed them AND manage all of that while chasing at least one of them around (hi 5 if you can identify with this)!

3ecdc5761cc9c650297e4f5701dacb23[1]Are you the one who has to make sure the house looks great before you go out in case an unexpected visitor arrives just as you get back from the event?

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Or are you going to use the excuse that you have decided to only get ready after your wife because you know she’s going to take her time and in doing this, you end up being the late one…so technically, it’s her fault?


Do tell…


YOurs randomly,


For the love of food…

So, you have a hot date at a fancy restaurant or a formal dinner with some high level people and you don’t know how to dress eat… 🙁

I could never let you turn down an opportunity for fine dining because according to Leroy Neiman, “eating is one of the great beauties in life”…and according to me, eating out more so…!

So here are a few tips, not in any particular order…

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Going Pink

October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, symbol of which is the pink ribbon. I couldn’t let the month go by without lending a voice to the cause that I know is a major issue for women and men around the world.

Even though breast cancer is the most popular form of cancer, there are other forms and there are things that can be done to minimize the associated risks;


First off,  you should know how your breasts normally look and feel and report any changes to your doctor right away.

  • All women should be familiar with the known benefits, limitations, and potential harms linked to breast cancer screening;
  • Women ages 40 to 44 should have the choice to start annual breast cancer screening with mammograms if they wish to do so.
  • Women age 45 to 54 should get mammograms every year.
  • Women 55 and older should switch to mammograms every 2 years, or can continue yearly screening.
  • Screening should continue as long as a woman is in good health and is expected to live 10 more years or longer.

Some women – because of their family history, a genetic tendency, or certain other factors – should be screened with MRIs along with mammograms. Talk with your doctor about your risk for breast cancer and the best screening plan for you.


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In a little while

No matter how dark the night gets, the morning is always waiting right there on the other side.

To a child, the well may look endless, but the rope can be long enough for the bucket to hit the bottom.

A child being pushed in a swing may think she’s being thrown to the clouds, but the adult pushing knows that it’s not more than a few feet high.

No matter how big a bottle of water is, one day, there will only be the last drop left.

A journey, regardless of how long it is, will end eventually.

Nothing ever lasts forever, even though it right now feels like it will.

There are times when you will be between the devil and the deep blue sea, sometimes between a rock and a hard place.

During those times, there are 4 things you can do – one after the other, or all at once if you like;

  1. Close your eyes
  2. Take a deep breath
  3. Let go
  4. Let God.

    In the 'morning', you will come out on the other side!
    In the ‘morning’, you will come out on the other side!


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